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Daddy-Tagged

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There seems to be some mysterious power at work here.

The more I tell myself that I shouldn’t do too many ‘tag and you’re it’ type of posts, the more they seem to find their way to me. Maybe I have a beacon of sorts that attracts tags. Let me clarify – I have absolutely no issues with ‘tag’ posts. In fact, I enjoy reading more about other bloggers and getting these little snippets of personal information that help reveal interesting details about other bloggers. But the challenge is this – as I’ve said before, I feel that people may not want to read about me or things like I like and dislike. Yes, I’m weird. Hence why I don’t take up many tag challenges.

So, once again, I’m making another exception. This time, it’s in response to a‘Daddy Tag’ that the lovely Suchitra, who blogs at ThePhdMama sent my way. She (and a few others) felt it would be an ideal fit for the Daddy Journals section of the blog, and after going through the questions, I agree. Also, I’ve been sort of stuck in a ‘non-blogging’ rut and figured, this may help me get out of it.

Suchitra – if you’re reading this, apologies for the delay in picking this tag up. I’ve just had a very rough September.

Though I’m not tagging anyone to take this forward, I would sure love to read some answers. Maybe some of the blogging mothers can get the answers from their partners and spouses and put it up on their blog. Just a thought. So here goes:

 


 

 

Are you a Stay at Home Daddy or a Working Daddy?

Stay at home dad. Well, started as a SAHD. Now I’m more of a Work from home daddy, provided my 4yo’s schedules and mood swings let me work on something.

 

Would you have it any other way?

During the initial period, I may have second guessed my decision to be one. The way that sometimes society and everyone else around you behaves can sometimes have an effect on you – positive or negative. But the more I’ve donned the hat of a Stay at home parent, the more I’m enjoying it. I’ve got time to be with my son, I pay more attention to my wife since I usually crave adult conversation after a whole day of toddler talk and generally I’m happy with what I’m doing presently. So no, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Except maybe having some undisturbed me-time now and then.

 

Do you co-change dirty nappies? Even the very smelly ones?

I don’t have to now, but I have. In fact, I’ve even had him go ‘the unspeakable’ on me plenty of times. So all that malarkey you hear about men not knowing to change nappies and shy away and all that – I think things have changed a lot since then.

 

A little fairy gives you the possibility of breastfeeding? Are you going for it or do you run away?

Can i have a superpower instead? Well, technically this could be a sort of superpower, I suppose.

Also, if I hadn’t started working out over the past month or so, I was this close to developing the masculine version of breasts – *shudders at the thought*.

I suppose, I’ll do it. Why should women have all the fun? *Gulp*

 

What is the one must-have item for a daddy?

‘Unagi’  and Ninja skills.

If you want to defend yourself from stealth attacks and stray pieces of Lego blocks and Hotwheel cars that have been planted at strategic locations to be ‘discovered’.

Jokes aside, I’d say two things – a pair of noise-cancelling headphones and some sort of tablet or large screen phone with an internet connection. Oh, and some me-time to finally be able to use those. 

 

How many kids do you plan on having?

What? More kids? 😛

I think we’re good with one. Would have loved one more, especially since I’m a single-child. Single kids have their benefits – but having a sibling or two rocks too. Sadly, life sometimes has other plans.

 

Lads’ nights? How often do you have them?

Almost never now. When I do get to do a late night or party, it’s usually with some of my best friends – and they’re all women. So, not technically lads’ nights.  But even they are very rare. I do miss them from the time I used to have them. Also since I started blogging, writing and becoming a Stay-at-home parent, I find myself like a lost Krishna amongst a kingdom of Gopis. 😀

 

Your child’s favourite achievement?

I love the fact that he’s now able to read. When I say read, I mean me reading a book to him, while he browses the pictures of the story  book and then repeats whatever I say to him. But yes, at least he’s interested. Also at par is that fact that he’s starting to be a little independent and wants to do certain things on his own. While at times, it gives me a handy little preview of how the teenage years are probably going to be, it still delights me.

 

What is your best memory with your kid(s)?

Would it be a cliché if I said he and I make new wonderful memories every day? Well, most days.But my best memory would probably be these few years that I’ve managed to spend with him. Yes, I crib a lot  at times about not having some time for myself and how he pushes all the wrong buttons and makes me yell and scream. But the fact that I’m here for his formative years and have the opportunity to play a role in his upbringing – well, that’s pretty priceless and makes for lots of memories.

 
But if I had to pick a memory, I’d say our family visit to Goa last year. I can’t remember the last time we cut off from technology and did so many things together as a family. 

 

Name one thing you miss since being a daddy?

Only one? I can name a few. Sleep for one. Now, I have to defend my face and other sensitive parts because my 4yo has ninja skills that he primarily uses on my when I’m asleep. The other thing I miss is couple time with my wife and impromptu getaways. Once you’re parents, everything requires a lot of planning and then contingency for when the plans don’t work out. So yes, I miss that time with my wife where we could just laze around a whole weekend or just go for a movie without thinking too much about what the kid would do.

 

Weight gain, before pregnancy, during, after and now? And we mean YOU DADDY, not the mummy!

Have you heard of ‘Couvade Syndrome’? It’s basically called sympathetic pregnancy which a condition in which a partner experiences some of the same symptoms and behaviour of an expectant mother. Most of the symptoms are disturbed sleep patterns, altered hormone levels and the mother of it all – minor weight gain.

 

If there was some sort of award – like an Oscar for ‘Best Actor – Couvade Syndrome’ – I would no doubt get that one. Because I think I lived and breathed that role, and a part of my mind and body forgot that the ‘pregnancy movie’ is now over and I need to stop gaining weight. 

So yes, steadily gaining weight. 

 

Dream holiday with your kids?

Oooh..a long holiday that involves a lot of nature – some trekking, some beach activities, some wildlife trails, and a whole lot of us time, with no pressure to try to fit in a large number of activities within a limited time frame. 

 

Dream holiday without your kids or even without the other half? (You’re allowed to dream)

Am I allowed to ‘take’ someone else for company? Like a hot female celebrity? Ooooh, Scarlett Johansson. 😛

A solo trip through Italy. Driving down those gorgeous coastal highways. Visiting Positano. So many.

I wouldn’t mind this being a couple holiday. The other place being a trip to Santorini. Oh…so many plans. So little money. And well, time.

 

How has your life changed since having kids?

On the positive side, I think I have some sort of a routine now. Mainly because, a lot of the  things I do now revolve around our son and takes his interests and dislikes into consideration. And yes, realising that you are suddenly responsible for another person can be a huge wake-up call.

 

On the other side, we travel a lot less, which I’m not a big plan of. I used to be a late night person – now I HAVE to be a morning person, which isn’t great. And some days, even getting to drink a cup of coffee in the morning undisturbed is nothing short of a miracle. 

 

Finish the sentence “It makes my heart melt when…”

…..when he smiles at me or says ‘Papa, let’s do something’ or gives me wet sloppy kisses and hugs with those tiny arms

 

Favourite beers brands and football team?

I don’t enjoy beer. So favourite drink – these days, Old Monk and coke. Cocktail – Long Island Iced tea.

But there are times where nothing but a good class of coffee will suffice.

I have some favourite sports, but I wouldn’t want to bore you with them.

 

Huggies or Pampers?

Neither. Now 🙂 Well, mostly no – we do have *accidents*

 

Have you always wanted kids?

Yes. Always have. Not sure why, but I don’t think I’ve ever imagined a life without kids. But that’s not to say that I was desperate for kids either. Somewhere in the middle.

 

Best part of being a dad?

Being able to relive some parts of my childhood with my little one and the fact that you have the opportunity to both be a good friend, as well as a responsible parent to your kid. 

Once again, thank you Suchitra for the tag and Shailaja & Jaibala for the push to take up the tag.

 



 

Note: I hope that this little ‘stand-in’ post will help break that writing block of mine while giving you some more details about the person behind Daddy Journals 🙂 So do show some love.

40 Responses to “Daddy-Tagged

  • Oh man , this had me in splits.. till perhaps I started to really take your responses seriously coz they seem to be coming from a space somewhere inside your ‘SAHD’ heart and then they were even more fun.
    Clearly the questions werent conditioned for a man .. the pregnancy weight was pretty well handled .. but yes dream on and the ScarJo Dream just might come true.
    Ninja skills ? LOL .. ‘slim’ and no pun intended .. of that happening so I guess you should start working on ‘inner peace’ ..Funniest thing ive read today and am sorry if you are getting a little EMO about the whole deal. but they did tell you opening up your daddy blogger heart to the world wasnt going to be rough.
    speaking of rough – sept is over .. Oct any better?

    • Well, as long as you laughed, I’d say job well done !
      Thanks, Chandni – good to see you here!
      October isn’t much better so far either…oh well!
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  • Sid, I enjoyed reading your replies! I must say, you are one who’s broken molds and shattered myths about SAHDs. R is lucky to have you around. Stay blessed.

  • This space, your blog, is somehow my happy space! I always want to come to your blog to actually read in peace and enjoy a quality writing! Whenever I see an update of yours on Facebook with a new blog post, I start looking for time in my schedule where I can relax and simply enjoy what you write Sid!

    And you never let me down! I wish I could reciprocate in some way… but don’t worry, someday I will!

    P.S: Will hop to all the other posts that I’ve missed on your blog!

    Cheers

    • This! This is making me all teary-eyed now, Geetika! Thank you so much! Really!!!
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  • I dislike tags too and yet, like you, I completely love reading when other bloggers take them up. This was such a adorable one. I’m with you on the sleep deprivation. When the twins were younger I’d just want to get away somewhere to catch up on sleep. One of them was always awake. That’s what I missed most of all. I hope October brings better things for you what with Diwali and the holiday season around us.
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    • Shuddering at the thought of twins. IT’s awesome but at the same time, I can’t even begin to imagine how things were for you.
      So far, October hasn’t been great either. But hey, we always have November.
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  • Always enjoyed reading your daddy journals even if I read only a handful of them. And good to know more about the Daddy behind them 🙂 I can so understand the me time you are talking about. Just hang in there, Sid. This phase won’t last long….you’ll have plenty of me time 🙂 My son is a teen now and some days I feel, it’s not terrible twos…it’s terrible teens 😀 But, I really admire for being a SAHD. Not all men can do it.

    • Thank you so much for that lovely compliment, Latha. Really appreciate it.
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  • That was a fun read. 🙂 Sounds like you’ve adjusted to the SAHD role very well, Sid. I enjoyed learning more about you. Long Island Iced Tea is so refreshing. Here’s hoping you get the chance to visit Italy and Santorini some day. They are magical places!
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    • I think I’m doing alright, Debbie.
      Long Island Iced Tea is just plain awesome! Thank you, Debs! Hope I get to visit them soon too.
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  • Interesting !
    visited your blog after so long (as am away from blogging) , It is such a fun read and good to know the trend has changed
    More power to your 4 Yo and to u too 🙂

    • So good to see you here again, Afshan. Hope the break is doing you some good nad hope to see you back with your trademark flourish soon!
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  • It is a lovely read and fun too. You are a good dad.
    So much dedication is needed for this. Good answers Sid!
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  • That was a really cute post. I’m so glad that you did take up the tag challenge. It was like the one made just for you. Loved knowing a little more about you, Sid. You’re a great Daddy! Stay blessed.
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    • Thank you, Rekha! I’m quite glad too. Haha – it did sound like Daddy questions no?
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  • That was a cute post and loved your answers. Thankfully, my husband is very hands on at home and helpful. But I do hear some stories about overworked moms.

  • Glad you picked it up. Got to know you better Sid.
    Its a fun read 🙂

  • That was a long post! 😛

    Not much there that I didn’t know about. But Scarlett Johansson? Time for J and I to meet over a pitcher of Sangria and discuss this.

    Having said that, I think that Rishi is one of the best behaved kids I have ever met and I love the fact that he’s so simple and minds his own things. He might be my favorite kid yet and this is only because of the way his parents have brought him up. You two are adorable parents and Rishi is the perfect reflection of you two.

    Okay now wipe that tear.
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    • Well, that’s good that you guessed most of it.

      What? Scar Jo is awesome!!!!
      Rishi appreciated the compliment – me, I’m not so sure 😉

  • You should come to Denver for that much needed holiday with little Ri 🙂
    We have the trails and the parks and the wildlife right in our backyard! 🙂
    That was a fun read Sid 🙂

    • Yes, that was one of the places I’d thought of too when I answered that. 🙂
      Thanks, Pix!
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  • Always refreshing to read your take on being a SAHD. I think R is very blessed to have you around and so is J. Always be happy. That’s the only thing I wish for you. (Apart from other material things, of course) 🙂
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    • Thank you so much, Shailaja.
      I reckon that on most days I feel more blessed to have them than them, me.
      Material items are good 🙂 Thanks!
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  • What a fun post and that tag is cool!
    I laughed and giggled on that breast-feeding question. Sid, you are such a sport! Enjoyed reading this after a long, crazy and kinda tough day at work.
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    • Thank you, Parul. Yes, it’s something different, isnt it? Hence why I thought it might be cool to pick it up.
      You know me – I’m always happy to try to make people laugh.
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  • Your answer s were like what I would have said if someone asked me ! So it really isn’t about who stays at home … Any one staying at home goes through the same thoughts and problems..that’s good to know!

    • I’m glad you think so too, Neha. Although I was tagged as a ‘father’ to play this, a lot of the things that Stay-at-home parents experience are similar irrespective of gender
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  • Do it, Jaibala. In fact, what a great idea! I think I may ask my dad to do it too.

    • I think you should too – it’ll be fab to read.
      Now it’s my turn to ‘nudge’ Jaibala to do this.
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  • Yay! You did it! Loved reading the answers. Loved the honesty and the simplicity in the way you write about how a big change like having a kid changes so many, many little things about us as individuals or half of a couple. I definitely miss the spontaneity of life too. Of course can do things now too, just need to remember to grab a few hundred things before executing that spontaneity. Haha. Thanks for completing the tag. Thanks to Jaibala and Shailaja for the nudges.

    • Yay, I did! And while you never ever even remotely guilt-tripped me, I didn’t want to let you down. Hence, another reason why I picked up the tag.
      Glad you enjoyed reading this and could relate to some parts even.
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  • Adorable post, Sid!
    Complete admiration for you to take up the enormous responsibility of staying home and being with R. I’m sure you have no idea how many men / couples you may have inspired.
    Loved reading this post !👍😊

    • Thank you, Mayuri!
      I honestly have no idea 🙂 But glad you enjoyed reading it.
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  • I agree with you on the me time, so much. And yes the simple of the teenage years scares me too. Live your responses.
    PS:I have half a mind to get my dad to answer these questions, he has been a dad twice over. I think it will be fun, if I can convince him to.
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    • Thanks, Jaibala.
      Maybe you should – it’ll be fun to read 🙂

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